This offering is for fellow therapists and healing professionals across the U.S. and internationally who are seeking consultation—not therapy—in your work with neurodivergent clients.

It’s for neurodivergent therapists who are wrestling with how to use therapy models rooted in neurotypical norms.

It’s also for allistic and/or neurotypical therapists who have begun to recognize ableist bias—and want to look more deeply at how it lives in them and shows up in their practice.

Really, this offering is for anyone committed to engaging in anti-ableist therapeutic work.

Who Consultation Is For

Consultation is not therapy. It's a space for therapists and healing professionals to explore your own ableist biases, internalized ableism, and how these might be expressing in your work with neurodivergent clients.

We can focus on specific cases or more general questions. I can offer education, language, and support in discerning what’s neurological—like shutdown or sensory overload—and what might be a part. When these get conflated, harm happens. Clients are taught they should be able to change or overcome something that is simply how they are. Masking gets reinforced. And clients are once again asked to adapt to a world—and a model—that refuses to adapt to them.

What Consultation Is

This isn’t therapy.

While your own personal material will undoubtedly be part of what we’re processing together—and there may even be room to work with your own parts—this is not a therapeutic relationship. Everything we do in consultation is meant to serve your work with clients.

If you're an IFS therapist looking to do your own inner work, feel free to reach out to inquire about therapy instead.

What Consultation Isn’t

I’m a neurodivergent therapist who’s had to teach both my own IFS therapist and my own IFS consultant how to work with me without perpetuating harm. That experience—of needing to educate the very people meant to support me—has deeply shaped how I show up in consultation.

I’ve also been actively working to figure this out with my own neurodivergent clients. I use IFS in my practice, and I’m continually asking how to apply it effectively—and without harm—so it honors neurodivergent ways of being.

I’m not here to defend a model. I’m here to disrupt it where it causes harm, and preserve what works beautifully in neurodivergent systems. My lens is grounded in lived experience, ongoing practice, and a commitment to rooting out the ableist norms, standards, and expectations that too often go unexamined.

Who I Am as a Consultant

I have witnessed the profound and deeply layered work that neurodivergent clients do through IFS—weaving the structure of the model through their own inner landscapes in a way that brings clarity and compassion into their relationship with themselves.

And I’ve also seen, and personally experienced, IFS do harm.

It can impose neurodominant norms that reinforce masking and align with internalized ableist beliefs around being too much, feeling too intensely, or having a nervous system that is wrong. It can make people feel like they should be able to be and live differently—closer to normal—and recreate the trauma of separation, othering, and not belonging.

It also gets things wrong. It assumes that parts holding trauma or intense experience need to change in some way through unburdening, when really, they can exist exactly as they are. They just need us to learn how to hold them.

I’ve witnessed these harms in clinical spaces, consultation spaces, and training environments—places that claim to be inclusive but fail to accommodate neurodivergent needs in practice.

I’m critically thinking about IFS—because it wasn’t built with us in mind.

Why This Work Is Needed

Good therapists—meaning well—can and will cause harm.
I have done harm.
Let’s do less harm together.

Prefer email? You can write to me directly at info@staceyplate.com.